Forget What You “Know” About Exotic Dancing

There are some misbeliefs that we need to burst before we immerse ourselves in further discussion of exotic dancing:

Misbelief 1: All exotic dancers are prostitutes who trade sexual favors for money.

This dangerous and offensive myth is absolutely and positively not true. In every profession, there are promiscuous women, and exotic dancing is no exception. However, there are an abundance of educated and respectable women – wives, virgins, moms and deeply religious women – in this and all other industries. Much of this issue depends on what club you choose. If it is a high–end club with strict
rules, you will have far less “funny business” going on. Most dancers I know are absolutely against prostitution; they simply dance, talk and entertain, just like I do. You do not have to do anything intimately sexual to be successful and make a ton of money dancing. Just conjure the illusion of fantasy and sex appeal by using your creativity!

Misbelief 2: You have to have large, fake breasts to dance.

Also not true. At my club the breakdown is about half natural and half fake. There are women with small, medium, and large breasts, and their bodies are many different shapes and sizes.

There are also beautiful African American women, Hispanic women, Asian women, Caucasian, and Russian women. No matter what your “look”, there are men who will appreciate you and give you their money. You just have to be confident in yourself and believe you are sexy! The most beautiful dancers rarely make the most money; it is personality and charisma that wins every time.

Misbelief 3: All exotic dancers have substance abuse issues Drugs and alcohol inhibit your judgment and allow you to do things you wouldn’t normally do – which can destroy your earning potential.

I have heard a few stories about dancers getting drunk and losing their money, losing trac of their VIP time, or discovering their money was stolen by a client or another dancer because they weren’t paying attention. Mess up here and there goes your job, and possibly your health. The dancers I know who don’t drink are the most successful. None of the dancers at my club have drug problems and most are paying their way through college.

Misbelief 4: The money comes easily.

It all depends on what your definition of “easy” is. If “easy” to you is sitting on the sidelines drinking a beer and munching a bag of potato chips then, no, this will not be easy.

However, what if I was able to show you a clear and certain path to success? What if all you had to do is follow my program exactly as outlined in order to attain all of your goals and dreams? In other words, no guesswork! Just listen, apply and make money. To me – that is easy! If making a six–figure salary as a dancer was easy, then everyone would be learning how to become a dancer.

You need to know the ins and outs of the trade because knowledge is power. This book will maximize your potential and significantly increase your nightly income.

Misbelief 5: Exotic dancers cannot be in a relationship.

Of course you can be in a relationship. As long as your partner is understanding and knows that what you do is business, there is nothing preventing you from maintaining a relationship. You could cheat any time you want to, no matter where you work; if you are going to cheat it is not because you work at a gentlemen’s club, it is because of other completely personal issues. I do recommend that you tell your clients you are single, because it is part of the fantasy to create the illusion that you are attainable to them; this, too, is just business.

As a matter of fact, you need an awesome boyfriend (or girlfriend) or husband who understands you and can be there for you, and who is not jealous, if you are to be the most successful at this. Someone who can mentor you and help you with the business aspect. Someone who may be a little older and more experienced, who wants you to succeed in whatever you choose to do. Just remember, we are the average of the 5 people we are around most, so the quickest way to get somewhere in life is to be around others every day who are going places too!

Misbelief 6: Exotic dancers have low self–confidence and crave attention all the time.

On the contrary, I have found that exotic dancing has actually increased my self–esteem, and I have seen the same thing happen with other dancers as well. It gave me a solid reason to finally attain my best body ever. After all, your body is your business in this industry, so the better you look, and the healthier you are, the more confident you will feel. This means more money from your clients.

Misbelief 7: Bartenders, waitresses, and shot girls don’t make nearly as much as dancers.

You would be amazed at how much money a waitress or bartender brings home, and they don’t even take their top off! Again, it’s all about being confident, knowing you are the best at what you do, and proving it every night.